Tony Robbin: Change Negative Thinking

[UltraVid id=198 ]Every one of us right now could get depressed piece of cake all we have to do is focus on all the tragedy that’s happening the world right now even little pieces of it children they’re dying right now starvation we can make pictures in our head out those bloated stomachs hearing the cries of babies just as they pass off into death sing flies eating their flesh how’s that for graphic at the same time every one of us could be an absolute total pleasure interrupts that pattern of a picture you’re looking at and think of something a great total pleasure and you know what they’re resilient things but to do that you have to stop focusing you have to delete all the negativity in the world and focus on things that make it feel great so you could focus on a relationship you have you could focus on how much you’ve already learned in the last six or seven or eight days you could focus on the people that love you you could focus on your ability as a human being to change your life at any moment in time you could focus on what learning means to you you could focus on the Sun you could focus on breathing fresh air you could focus on the fact you live in a free country you could focus on the fact that you have a connection with your Creator you could focus on anything and feel incredible you could focus on new babies being born to this moment they had a greater opportunity in life than any time in our history there’s so much we could focus on it feel good about the challenge is this you must control it through questions questions change what we delete we’re always deleting human beings we’re not gonna stop deleting things as long as I’m gonna delete things why not delete things that disempower you and focus on the things that empower you does that make sense the third thing that questions do is they help you to get access to resources within yourself I’m a big believer that anything you’ve ever wanted to accomplish you’ve already got the resources inside of you to make it happen that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go out and learn from somebody else or model the success of others I’m just saying the things you need to succeed are already in your core the resources are there you just need to get access to them by asking better questions I’ll give an example if I ask myself questions like gosh can I really do this that creates a feeling of doubt to hear how that does that and that feeling of doubt will keep me in a state where I’m not gonna get the most out of myself but if instead I ask myself a question how can I make this thing happen right now more powerfully than I ever dreamed of and have fun doing it if I keep asking that question my brain will get access to more of my ability because whatever I ask for my brain will give me but if you ask your brain can I really do this and you do it with a tone of voice of doubt you are gonna get access to the resources called out does that make sense if you think about it the greatest communicators the greatest teachers of all time were not people that so much taught us as they did ask us they shared things with us but they got us to use our own resources they ask questions all the great speakers have done this hey Martin Luther King asked questions about a dream John F Kennedy asked don’t ask what your country can do for you ask what you can do for your country he wanted you to take the resources out of yourself and contribute and expand our country you must learn to ask habitual questions that empower you I want you to know that I believe the success in my life has all come down to one basic skill state management but a consistent basis I’ve learned how to manage my state and therefore I’ve been able to get myself to breakthrough and take action with very few people around me were able to do the same they were able to that’s probably not the best description they weren’t using their power because they didn’t have access to all of it and I’ve done that by everyday doing things that would increase my physical ability flexibility power energy by the way I’m moving the way I breathe and also by consistently and daily conditioning myself to ask the kinds of questions to create the kinds of focus that moves me towards larger levels of contribution and joy and fun and success and passion instead of the things that would pull me down that would pull me to areas of frustration and anger and giving up listen there is no capability difference between you and someone you consider to be an ultimate role model of success the only difference is they’ve learned to use their mind and body with more power on a consistent basis they have learned a manager state they’ve learned to use their body effectively whether they know it or not consciously doesn’t matter a lot of people do things without being aware of how they do it and they’ve learned to control their mental focus remember whatever we concentrate our focus on consistently and strive to learn from and make new distinctions about we will get great at I don’t care what it is if you focus on it daily and you strive to be better you’re gonna make little distinctions that’ll make you more and more effective every single day so you better decide what you want to focus on in your life and what you want to experience on a daily basis because that’s where your power is gonna come from that’s where your power is going to emit from that’s the genesis of your power I want you to know that many things that you think are impossible or difficult are only difficult or impossible because of the way you’re focusing on things you’re focusing on how it can’t be done and you can remember whatever you focus on is what you get so if you focus on how it can’t be done you are absolutely right and no one’s gonna prove you wrong so why not focus on what’s possible and create that I mean that’s how I created things like the firewalk seminar all I did was hold a new level of possibility instead of focusing on how it couldn’t be done or how it was a terrible thing or something like that I focused on hey this is an incredible example of possibility and if other people can do it my focus and my question is if they can do it then how can we do it how can I share it with other people how could it be used as an empowering experience it’s a lot of fun I did the same thing with teach people wood breaking you know I teach people how to break wood karate style not in two years but in about 20 minutes again not to make them this powerful person but to show them that by simply changing their mental focus by controlling their physical emotional state and by modeling someone’s success that they can get results in 30 minutes that takes most people two years and they have what we call a breakthrough literally I want you to know that you have every right in any moment of time to feel lousy to feel bad to feel sorry to feel hurt I am NOT saying by this tape program that you should never be disappointed or frustrated or angry or anything else because all of those emotions have their place in their proper proportion hey some of my greatest frustrations or angers or upsets or would have driven some of my greatest successes because it’s made me search for more but see what’s interesting is the pain drove me but what changed me from other people who just gave up is I ask better questions I found a way say what can I learn how can I grow from this how can I expand from this what can I take from this experience that’ll empower me what can I learn from this so I never have to experience it again and by asking empowering questions how can I take advantage of this what’s the actual benefit in this situation that I probably hadn’t noticed I began to find benefits whereas other people said why did this happen to me why does this always happen to me why did you do this to me Lord how come I’m not smart enough to pull this off why do I keep self sabotaging see that’s the difference between success and failure so I want you to know I’m not saying you can’t feel bad I’m just saying and when you’re done feeling bad here’s how to change and you may not want to spend quite so much time feeling bad in the future because feeling bad is based on focus if you change your focus you can feel good instantly right now at this moment now so let me ask you a few questions and what I’d like you to do for your homework is design some questions every morning my life I wake up and I ask myself questions now the truth is you already do this too the only problem is you’re not doing it consciously think about it when you’re shaving are you thinking and talking to yourself know that the process of thinking is nothing but asking and answering questions you’re doing it constantly that’s where your thoughts come from think about it now you might say well no that’s not true yes it is true if you said no it’s true or yes it is it’s because you ask yourself the question is that true or something like it see some of the questions you ask are subconscious your brain is deciding all the time if I get in this car if I turn here what’s gonna happen is that car coming too close or too far you’re asking questions constantly subconsciously but you’re also doing it consciously when you’re shaving or putting on your makeup or shampooing you’re asking questions but it might be questions like God why do I always have to do this why do I have to go to work today think about the kind of states that those questions create and what would be some more empowering questions like what could I do today that would make today more fun than ever before what can I do today that would create a breakthrough in my business what could I do today to connect more with my family members I wonder what’s gonna happen today that’ll make me feel total pleasure for no reason I wonder what I’ll see today that I haven’t seen before see those kinds of questions will empower you if you’re bored it’s cuz you ask lousy questions probably ask questions like why do I have to do this why do we do this all the time why do we always do these things versus looking around saying hi what could I notice today that I haven’t before see what can I see that I haven’t seen before what can I smell that I haven’t smelled before see it’s called directing your computer so here are some questions you might want to answer right now in your own mind and notice how they make you feel question 1 what are you really most happy about your life right now what’s one of the things you’re most happy about in your life right now answer that question in your own head what are you most happy about in your life right now or if your brain goes nothing what could you be happy about if you wanted to be if you ever ask a question yourself and somebody says well I don’t feel that way or I don’t think that way so I know you don’t but if you did or if you could what could you feel happy about right now think about it have you thought of something well good I’m asked a question what about that makes you happy third question how does that make you feel really allow yourself to feel don’t just go well my drip-drop II feel the feelings what else are you really happy about in your life right now think of a second thing what else are you really happy about in your life right now what about that makes you feel happy how does that make you feel here’s the second question for you what are you really excited about in your life right now what are you really excited about in your life right now answer the question in your mind think about it or what could you be excited about if you wanted to be excited about something think about it oh come on you’ve got more things to be excited about think what about that makes you excited why does that make you excited how does it make you feel what else you excited about your life right now come on what else what else are you really excited about your life right now or could you be excited about if you wanted to how does that make you feel here’s a third question for you what are you really grateful for in your life right now what are you really grateful for in your life right now what are some of the things you’re grateful for what could you be grateful for if you wanted to be answer the question honestly how does that make you feel I want you to notice do you feel state changes you answer these questions from where you were a few moments before that’s it so you can change your state instantly and you can make yourself feel great there’s so much to feel grateful for if you want my formula for wealth it’s real simple live every day in an attitude of gratitude say the more you feel like you have the more you’ll experience in your life and the more you’ll be willing to give see make sure that you’re always trying to give more than you take back and feel grateful for everything you have and you will be wealthy beyond your wildest dreams but you got to control your focus let me ask you another one what are you really proud of in your life right now what are you really proud about in your life right now or what could you be proud about in your life so far what are some of the things what about those things makes you feel proud how does that make you feel what else are you really proud of in your life right now how does that make you feel and here’s a final question for you who do you really love most in your life and who loves you think about it and don’t just go all my mom my dad my brother my sister get some feeling step into those experiences and feel what it feels like thing about who loves you and how that makes you feel who do you love and how does that make you feel to love that person so much I had a question for you what if every morning you started out asking yourself a series of questions that put you in this kind of state there’s some real power to see the state you’re in affects the way you look at your whole world doesn’t it affects the way you breathe the way you feel the way you treat other people and your level of success see a lot of people teaching life do bunch affirmations go I’m happy I’m FBI MEP MEP MEP I’m happy and then your brain goes bs alright now if you do affirmations long enough they may work because your brain may get bored and say well why am i happy at which time it’ll search your brain for an answer and then all sudden you’ll feel happy that’s what happens when you do affirmations or if you go I’m happy I’m happy I’m happy I’m happy I’m happy and you really create the physiology of happiness you know what I mean by that by using your voice that way then what you’ve done is the affirmation didn’t do it so much that’s putting your body in that state so affirmations are great but what only most questions are even more powerful because now you have a reason to be happy you’re not just jumping yourself up and run around with what I call a perma grin where people go why are you happy and go I don’t know but it feels good it’s better to have all these reasons so every morning you stack more reasons to be happy you come up with more reasons that you’re proud more reasons to be grateful more reasons to feel excited about life more feelings of love if you stack those every day you literally anchor them in your nervous system this is part of what I call destiny technology’s controlling your state you’re asking yourself effective questions this is the power of focus and here’s your exercise pause your success journal and right now I want you to write down five questions after you’ve designed these five questions but I’d like you ask yourself to do is this first of all let me ask you this if every single morning you got up and asked yourself five custom design questions that put you in peak States and they gave you lots of reasons to feel phenomenal so you weren’t just some guy out there again just babbling about how excited you are without any reasons for it I’m not talking about being somebody who’s just all pumped up for no reason but if every day you came up with lots of reasons and felt these powerful emotions what would that do to the quality of your life what would that do to your days would it be worth developing some new habits if your answer to these questions is yes then I’d like to challenge you to do something I’d like you to develop a new habit a one that will literally conditioned your nervous system to associate powerful emotions with waking up in the morning wouldn’t that be nice here’s what I want you to do if you’re willing to take on the challenge for the rest of this program approximately what twenty two more days each morning I want you to answer those five questions and every time you answer them you’ve got to create some feelings so if one of your questions was what am I most excited about my life you got to come up with at least two different answers and you got to think about why you’re exciting how great that makes you feel you got to actually feel the answer the question two answers to each of your five questions each morning again this is not added work you’re already asking questions you just may be asking questions like oh gosh why do I have to get up at this hour that may not be the best question to ask when the alarm goes off maybe you want to install a new one that empowers you would you be willing to do that for the rest of this 30-day program now I don’t want you to do this for the rest of your life because you might get addicted of feeling excellent for the rest of your life and gosh only knows what would happen to you then so don’t go any longer than these thirty days for sure but at least for the thirty days would you be willing to try it okay then go for it so you know your assignment design five questions that we’ll get resources out if you make you feel phenomenal each day that will make you get access to your real powered ability every single day also I want to say to you please use your success journal to write down each day a little bit about what’s happening to you what are you noticing have you already begun to notice that your attitude has changed obviously but also if you notice that maybe you’re willing to take some chances do you’re being more decisive you’re taking some actions you’ve been may be more powerful in some of your communication have you decided maybe to take some actions like lose weight or stop smoking and you’re in like day three or four of that or are you just feeling better about the possibilities of your future now that was each day you might want to just keep a journal jot down a couple of key ideas about what you learn that day or what you’re experiencing in your daily life besides this program I’ve kept journals for years because I believe that if my life is worth living it’s worth recording and for me what journals are as a way to go back and notice my growth because otherwise what happens for a lot of us is we get caught up but if you have a journal you can look and see how you’ve grown in your development and your ability and where you are in your life in addition your journals are things that you can give later on to your children someday they can look back and learn from the lessons you’ve learned in your life sir and valuable I hope you’ll decide to keep a success journal on an ongoing basis after this program but see if you get yourself in the habit right now for the next 30 days over the next 30 days you